Many of you, perhaps hundreds or thousands around the world, have asked the same question, “Where is your Donate Button?” Well, this is a ministry first. I don’t do this for money, I do this to serve and help others know God’s Word and give free counsel to the hurting. Yes, this web-site does cost money and a lot of time to operate. However, our first and primary goal is to help the hurting and offer guidance to all who will learn and apply these many truths through the Blogs and Radio Programs. The Bible, God’s Holy Infallible Word, states in Luke 6:38 Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, shall they give into your bosom. For with what measure you give, it shall be measured to you again.
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Rev. Bill Haynes, PO Box 55221, Tulsa, Oklahoma, 74155
Many of you have made comments about us writing e-books or books. The answer is “yes.”
We have written about a dozen books to date and continue to write as led. You can down load these books as
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Most people and couples pretty much follow the patterns they learned from their parents. They seem to know no other way. They are often unaware of these patterns because they seem normal to them. The Apostle Paul proclaimed a “more excellent way.” the excellent way of love.
The Corinthian church was always his problem church. They were many different nationalities and languages. There were often prejudices and clicks. He offered many instructions on how to keep peace and minimize confusion in 1 Corinthians 12 and 14. However, I Corinthians 12:31b we read, “yet shew I unto you a more excellent way.” This phrase is actually the title to Chapter 13, most people know as, “The Love Chapter” of the Bible. No matter how right one may be in doctrine, knowledge, faith, giving and dedication, if God’s Love (agape) is absent, it is all for nothing and vanity (worthless). God’s agape love never faileth (vs. 8) Before believers were known as Christians, they were called, “The People of the Way.” Jesus said in John 13:34, “A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. 35 By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.” Couples and families must keep Godly love the priority over who is right or wrong. Seek God’s, “More Excellent Way,” rather than your own way. Then peace and joy will abide in your hearts and homes.
Since God created us, He knows what is best for us. He has also given us the Book of Books, the Holy Bible, God’s infallible Word. In the Bible we have very practical truths that help us deal with all of life’s troubles.
In Hebrews 12:5-11 states, “My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when He rebukes you, 6 because the Lord disciplines those He loves, and He punishes everyone He accepts as a son.” 7 Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father? 8 If you are not disciplined (and everyone undergoes discipline), then you are illegitimate children and not true sons. 9 Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respectedthem for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of our spirits and live! 10 Our fathers disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, that we may share in His holiness. 11 No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.
If you want to teach your child, “respect,” then discipline them. I believe in both positive and negative discipline. I strongly oppose child abuse and beating of children. However, the Bible plainly speaks of negative discipline as being good for children. It teaches them respect. Most young people today have hear the word, “respect.” However, they do not have a clue what it means. Love them enough to say, no and discipline as needed.
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Each new year I face and each year I look back, I realize that I need to learn to lean on Jesus and His power and righteousness to become more fruitful, powerful and efficient. I love that old hymn, “Learning to Lean.”
“Learning to Lean, Learning to Lean
I’m Learning to Lean on Jesus
Finding More Power Than I’d Ever Dreamed
I’m Learning to Lean on Jesus”
This year I am determined to lean on Jesus for more than ever before. If you can keep your vertical relationship healthy and filled with faith and love, your horizontal relationships will be more healthy and loving. We must lean on Jesus to have more power in this new uncertain year. We must live by faith and not be controlled by Satan and fear. Trust in the Lord and lean not unto your own understanding. He will direct your paths this New Year. Allow Jesus to be Lord of your church, marriage, home and heart.
In this day of social media and every other form of communication, adults and especially children are bombarded with peer pressure. Sometimes, unfortunately, a large number have become depressed and have surrendered to hopelessness and committed suicide.
The Apostle Paul wrote these words about peer pressure :
1Corinthians 4:1 ¶ Let a man so account of us, as of the ministers of Christ, and stewards (household managers) of the mysteries of God.
2 Moreover it is required in stewards, that a man be found faithful.
3 But with me it is a very small thing that I should be judged of you, or of man’s judgment: yea, I judge not mine own self.
4 For I know nothing by myself; yet am I not hereby justified: but he that judgeth me is the Lord.
5 Therefore judge nothing before the time, until the Lord come, who both will bring to light the hidden things of darkness, and will make manifest the counsels of the hearts: and then shall every man have praise of God.
Notice:
Be Faithful to God first. Vs. 2
Never Give value to criticism of others, if you love and please the Lord God
They are not qualified, since they are not perfect either. Vs. 3
You are not qualified either, we think too highly or lowly of ourselves. Vs. 4
It’s not time yet, God’s still working on us. The portrait of your life is not yet complete. Vs . 5
The Apostle had many critics, yet he didn’t allow criticism to keep him from being obedient to what was right and doing what was God’s will for his life.
Someone said, “STAND UP FOR WHAT’S RIGHT, EVEN IF YOU HAVE TO STAND ALONE.” Paul had to stand alone quite often in his service to God. In verse three, the word, “a very small thing,” is very descriptive. The New Testament was written in Greek, a very pictorial language. The words mean, “the smallest or least of all.” Paul did not allow peer pressure to influence him, he was driven by a whole hearted desire to please his creator, God Almighty. Jesus, Who gave His all on Calvary’s cross, was Paul’s example.
People have occasionally described peer pressure and a large ocean. No matter how small the boat, the ocean cannot overwhelm it as long as it keeps the water out. Thus, don’t take the peer pressure in and you will survive.
Unfortunately, most people don’t realize, God is our eternal judge. Paul was totally concerned with his pleasing his creator, not his fellow man. Yes, our testimony is very important, but not most important.
This author has said many times, “God loves me, what’s your problem?” If we are pleasing to God and love Jesus with all our hearts, it doesn’t matter much, if others don’t like or approve of us.
It is important to laugh at ourselves; we are often learning new and better ways. God is still working on me. Give yourself a break. Yes, we all make mistakes and even sin. But for a true believer, sin is the exception and not the rule of our lives.
Since, God, Who is our only perfect accurate eternal judge, loves us, what value or worth is the criticism of other imperfect beings?
Pastor Bill Haynes, PhD, P.O. Box 55221, Tulsa Okla., 74155
918-252-7758
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This small work is very practical. There are many false teachers concerning forgiveness. Many of these are well meaning pastors and teachers.
While this is not intended to be an exhaustive work on forgiveness, it should be a benefit to any reader who needs to have or give forgiveness. This is not intended to be a heavy theological treatise on forgiveness, but is based on biblical truths.
It is the purpose of this work to assist the readers to find full and complete forgiveness in their life. It is also to help people learn how to forgive others. Great freedom is to be found in forgiveness as a giver as well as a receiver.
Ephesians 4:32 – And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Matthew 6:14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
God Bless you,
Dr. Bill Haynes, PhD,
P.O. Box 55221, Tulsa Okla., 74155
918-252-7758
All Comments and Donations are greatly needed and appreciated.
In Part 1, we gave the scripture in Mathew 5:31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: 32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. We described the conditional clause and defined the term “Pornea.”
Now we need to finish the scripture without the conditional clause. Without the conditional clause, or true grounds for divorce (sex outside the marital bond), divorce is nullified by God and they are still married in the eyes of God. Again, it doesn’t matter what anyone else says, God is our all knowing eternal judge. It doesn’t matter what earthly laws or changing morals of humanity may say. When two get married they not only promise one another, they promise God Almighty, “Till death do us part.”
This is why God says, to marry a divorced person without the conditional clause, “whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.” According to God’s law, she is still married and God doesn’t accept their man made divorce. Adultery is by definition a married person having sex with another person besides the God promised mate.
Note: The person who divorced their mate on God given grounds of sexual unfaithfulness, is free to remarry, without it becoming adultery.
Note: The person who was divorced for sexual unfaithfulness must remain single. 1 Cor. 7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
I’m thankful God does forgive sin, however, a new marriage will never receive God’s full blessings.
A Second possible Biblical Ground is desertion over the faith. 1 Cor. 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
In first century and today also, quite often unbelievers desert or even divorce the mate, if they become a born again Christian. The Bible clearly states the believer is no longer under bondage (marital bond) in such cases.
However, it is important for the abandoned mate to give themselves time to heal and hopefully their mate will convert to Christianity and save the marriage. However, if their unbelieving mate becomes sexually involved with another or marries another, they are committing adultery. Then the believer is definitely free to remarry, but only to another believer. 1 Cor. 7:39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. If the believer has Biblical grounds for the divorce, then it is as if her former mate is dead.
God Bless you,
Pastor Bill Haynes, PhD, P.O. Box 55221, Tulsa Okla., 74155
918-252-7758
All Comments and Donations are greatly needed and appreciated.
In Mathew 5:31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: 32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Jesus had begun the Sermon on the Mount in this chapter and continued through chapter 7. It was His inaugural address to the religious order of the Jews of His day. On many subjects, Jesus would say, “You Say, but I Say” speaking against the misinterpretations of the Rabbi (Master Teachers) of that era concerning the Scriptures. He would give God’s perspective on various subjects and correct the falsehoods of the Rabbi.
Divorce was one of those subjects mention. The truth is it doesn’t matter much concerning my thoughts or others on this subject. What matters is what God’s absolute truth is, after all He is our Almighty Eternal Holy Judge. In Matthew 5:32-32 Jesus taught one main reason for Divorce, “saving (except) for the cause of fornication.” This is the primary exception clause. It modifies the entire subject presented.
The KJV word fornication is often misunderstood. It is vital for this subject to have a good understanding of this word. This word in the original Greek is “Pornia.” Words change their meaning and how they are used in various generations. The oldest use of this word is found in the Greek Septuagent, (Hebrew Old Testament translated into Greek in the third century BC) and it refers to temple prostitution of pagan religions. However, by the New Testament time the word had grown to include all forms of extra Marital and ungodly sexual activity. Pornia is the root word for pornography! It encompasses many forms of sexual sins including: pre-marital sex, adultery, incest, homosexuality, lesbianism, bisexuality, and etc. Only within the bond of holy matrimony is the bed of sexual activity blessed and not condemned by God.
While sexual unfaithfulness is a horrible sin against one’s mate, family and their God, it can be forgiven. Jesus always encourages forgiveness. The rabbi of Christ’s day often demanded divorce concerning such sin. However, Christ and believers must be willing. It has been my privilege to see hundreds of marriage rescued from divorce in such cases. Some have said, “My mate didn’t cheat on me with another person of the opposite sex, but with the same sex.” That’s covered under the definition of pornia. Same is true for incest and many other sins. If the transgressor is truly repentant and has broken off all contact with the third person and given themselves to God, hope is possible. But if they are only sorry they got caught, that’s not enough. Seek Godly Christian counseling and be led by God in prayer and fasting before you quit your marriage, God will tell you when enough, is enough. God bless you. Check out a DivorceCare program near you or Go to Amazon.com for the book, Healing Hearts After Divorce by William Haynes.
God Bless you,
Pastor Bill Haynes, PhD, P.O. Box 55221, Tulsa Okla., 74155
918-252-7758
All Comments and Donations are greatly needed and appreciated.
It is with great hesitation and reluctance, but with great importance of mission, this book has been written. First of all, as an author, no one should feel worthy. We have all been too prideful and arrogant in God’s service. Too often, seeking of personal attention, acceptance and praise from man. We are here in God’s service, to glorify our Lord and Savior, not ourselves. This book has been postponed for over ten years now, so research and self-examination in light of God’s word could hopefully grow me in humility and holiness. We have all harmed ourselves, in His service, too many times through pride and self-sufficiency. Most all of you, in His service, have done so more than you comprehend. It is not our ability, but God’s ability. It is not our power, but His, that gets His will done. So not my will, but Thine be done, Oh Lord! God’s Kingdom work has always been hindered by arrogant and unholy men in high places seeking to build their kingdom instead of God’s. Humility is the lead virtue that unlocks all the others. Pride is often promoted everywhere today, even in the church. However, it is still one of the seven deadly sins. Pride caused the fall of a third of the angels and Lucifer himself. It is a dangerous fire that has burned and harmed us all. We cannot have revival or success without a renewed and better understanding of personal humility and holiness. This holiness, yes, is positional through Christ’s righteousness, but greatly needed in earnest practice out love for Christ. We are not holy or humble in ourselves, but through Christ. Our love and gratitude to Jesus, not legalism or to be redeemed should be our motivation.
God Bless you all in His service,
God Bless you,
Rev. Bill Haynes, PhD,
P.O. Box 55221, Tulsa Okla., 74155
918-252-7758
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