Author: Bill

“COMPANIONSHIP”
Companionship is one of the most important needs for both men and women. It is the opposite of loneliness. Companionship helps and encourages us. We are defined as individuals by our relationships. Without companionship in life, most never find purpose or fulfillment.
Most people marry to help fulfill this need for companionship and end the loneliness. Unfortunately more than half of these marriages end in divorce. Good companionship, like a good marriage, requires a lot of hard work and daily maintenance. Selfishness, pride, immaturity, and poor communication are usually what end companionship. You cannot have a happy marriage until you get a divorce from yourself. A good companion will want what is best for the couple or family. Thinking in terms of we or us rather than just me or what I want.
Companionship requires teamwork. Most couples and families separate house. They may all live under the same roof but that is about the only thing they have in common. They all have their own room, plans, checking accounts, and live virtually separate from one another with little communication. They drift apart and when a crisis requires teamwork they fail. Without developing true companionship, married people are only two, rather than one, lonely and unhappy people.
Ask yourself if you have a mate and family, are we growing together or drifting apart? Is our love growing? Are we still learning together? Are we still making plans for the future? Do these plans include God?
Jesus Christ is a friend, a companion that sticks closer than any brother. In Hebrews 13:5b Jesus promises, “I will never leave thee nor forsake thee.” If you learn companionship through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, you will learn how to be a real companion to your mate, family, and loved ones.
True Godly companions can enjoy the mutual blessings and grace of God for all of life, if they seek Him in all their ways and decisions. Their prayers are never hindered and God supplies all their needs according to His riches in glory.
Dr. Bill Haynes – PO Box 55221 Tulsa, Okla., 74155 or 9182527758

“VICTORS”

Some people believe there are only two kinds of people in the world, “Victims and Victimizers.” They are wrong. Most all people have become victims to some cruel act of others. People who have been victimized can spend the rest of their lives in hatred, bitterness, and self-pity. This is very dangerous for their spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical health. If a person becomes overwhelmed with hatred they will become the very thing they hate, victimizers.
There is another kind of people called, “Volunteers.” They have been abused much of their life. They have little personal value and will sacrifice themselves for the pleasure of others in order to win acceptance. Many abused mates do this to keep their mate from leaving. They become addicted to abuse. However, they continue to volunteer for long-term abuses. They often marry one abuser after another.
There is one other group of people. These people are called, “Victors.” These people strive to be as harmless as doves yet wise as serpents. I John 5:4 states – For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world: and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith. 5 Who is he that overcometh the world, but he that believeth that Jesus is the Son of God? Romans 8:37 states – Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. Too many people are telling lies behind their hymnals when they sing, “Victory in Jesus.” They have been overcome by the world and sin all week. You can become an over-comer, more than a conqueror, if you trust by faith in God’s power, wisdom, and love. Jesus and His love are undefeatable.
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“WONDERFUL COUNSELOR”

There is only one true and wonderful counselor. Isaiah’s prophecy proclaims who this person would be. Isaiah 9:6, “For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.” This of course is, Jesus Christ. There are many fine counselors who are Christians. However, they can only hope to illuminate their clients with God’s wonderful counsel. This comes from God’s word and wisdom found in the Holy Bible and not the foolishness of man’s counsel. A truly Christian counselor is basically one who will, “Walk along side,” those who are hurting and pointing them to biblical truths that are timeless.
Hebrews 6:17-19a – “Wherein God, willing more abundantly to shew unto the heirs of promise the immutability of his counsel, confirmed it by an oath: 18That by two immutable things, in which it was impossible for God to lie, we might have a strong consolation, who have fled for refuge to lay hold upon the hope set before us: 19Which hope we have as an anchor of the soul, both sure and stedfast..”

God’s counsel in immutable or unchangeable. It is always right and correct for any circumstance, person, or time. People must get back to God and His instruction manual and love letter the Bible.

God bless you,

Rev. Bill Haynes, Ph.D.

 918-252-7758

PO Box 55221, Tulsa, Ok., 74155

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“GODLY GRIEF”

By:  Dr. Bill Haynes PO Box 55221, Tulsa, Okla., 74155
Bill Haynes Ministries
Many church members believe that grief is something a Christian should not experience. In I Thess. 4:13b we read, “Sorrow (grieve) not, even as others which have no hope.” This scripture does not forbid grief. It forbids grief that is without hope. We have all been created with the ability and need to grieve. Everyone grieves over thousands of little to large losses throughout life. The little losses help better prepare us for the greater losses. Grief is a process that can involve many strong emotions. With God’s help and hope we become better and stronger rather than bitter and weaker.
Godly people do suffer great losses. Everyone has different backgrounds and coping skills. No one should ever say to another, “I know exactly how you feel.” They are a different creation of God.
Grief is not a sin. God the Father grieved over Israel. Jesus lamented and grieved over Jerusalem. We are not to grieve the Holy Spirit. Jesus told his disciples in St. John 16:20-22 “Verily, verily, I say unto you, that ye shall weep and lament, but the world shall rejoice: and ye shall be sorrowful, but your sorrow shall be turned into joy…ye now have sorrow: but I will see you again, and your heart shall rejoice, and your joy no man taketh from you.” Jesus was speaking of His impending crucifixion. The cross was the worst possible death and tragedy. “Cursed is he who hangs on a tree.” However, God the Father took the worst grief and sorrow and used what Satan intended for total destruction and turned it into the greatest victory eternity has ever seen. The very source of sorrow, the cross, is now the greatest symbol of victory. We now have a joy that no man can steal from us. Your tragedy, no matter how terrible, will and can be turned into a great victory and hope if we trust in God. He will turn your sorrow and grief to joy in His perfect time.

May God bless & help you.